Couples Counseling

In The Comfort of Home

You and your partner have felt distant for a while now.

Your attempts to talk about it seem to fall flat. When one of you tries to bring things up, the other person becomes defensive or shuts down.

You’re not seeing eye-to-eye.

Your partner’s not hearing you and not understanding it from your viewpoint.

You keep having the same arguments over and over again.

You may talk about things, but nothing ever gets resolved.

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You keep wondering how you became so disconnected from each other.

How Couples Counseling Helps

LEARN COMMUNICATION SKILLS

You and your partner will learn how to recognize and change your negative patterns of interaction, such as arguments and resentment.

RECONNECT EMOTIONALLY

You and your partner will address feelings of emotional disconnection in the relationship. The main goal is to help you reconnect!

PROVEN EFFECTIVE

You will be learning one of the few evidence-based couples therapy approaches. Extensive research has shown EFT to be very effective at repairing relationships.

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Where Does Conflict Start?

Most people have a natural need to feel comforted by those they love. However, a lot of couples have trouble trusting and expressing emotion to each other. This is often a result of each partner’s past experiences in the current relationship and in other close relationships throughout their lives.

If we look deeper, we discover that these arguments often start because one partner is feeling a lack of emotional connection with the other.

One or both partners may be thinking,

“Can I trust them with my heart?”

Feeling A Bit Hesitant?

Perhaps you worry that couples counseling won’t help…

…that you and your partner will just end up arguing in session the whole time…

…or that one of you will feel blamed because the counselor takes the other partner’s side.

It’s reasonable to have concerns about couples counseling. Be sure to bring up any concerns in your free phone consult or in session. I want to help you feel comfortable starting couples work.

How Couples Counseling Works

I conduct couples therapy sessions using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which focuses on helping partners recognize and change their negative patterns of interacting with each other. I am fully trained in EFT, and I’m confident that this method can help you improve your relationship in a way that creates lasting results. 

Read a blog post about Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples:

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Couples counseling: many people could benefit from from it, a lot of people absolutely need it, some people will pursue it, and very few will tell anyone else about it.  

It’s quite possible that you know one or more people who have seen a couples counselor, but it’s unlikely that they have told you about this.  The stigma that surrounds relationship problems and couples counseling leaves most couples feeling like they should be able to solve relationship issues on their own.  However, finding a good couples counselor can make a huge difference in helping partners understand and appreciate each other.

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